Thursday, August 27, 2009


When I was 19 I met what I thought at the time was the love of my life. I didn't love myself then so it was easy to think this guy really loved me.

We basically got married when I was 20. I didn't want to move back home so I moved in with him and his mother and she wouldn't let us live together without being married. Hence, got married a year after meeting him. He was already abusive verbally, emotionally and physically by this time. He drank a lot and he had a bad bad temper! I saw him hit his mother and cuss his mother out. I had had guns held to the temple of my head and the back of my head and told that if I tried to leave he would blow my brains out.

I've had NEW clothes ripped off of me as I'm trying to leave for work cuz I looked "too" good! When I finally started fighting back we tore up the house. We broke TV's, VCR's, windows, A/C units, drawers, tables, name it, we destroyed it while fighting. I was forever walking into work trying to hide my face or my shoulders or wherever was bruised the worst. Like hiding those would make the others go away.

One night he decided to take me to a club with him. Normally I got left at home as he went out and drank and then came home to beat me up.

He completely disrespected me in the club as though I wasn't even there. He left me sitting at a table for about an hour, I finally go look for him and he’s all hugged up on the dance floor with some other girl. I took the keys out of his pocket while he was on the dance floor and I actually left the club and left in my car. For SOME reason I went back to pick him up when the club closed.

He didn’t even acknowledge that I had left the club and came back so I had the radio on and was totally ignoring him asking me if I had fun and all that garbage, when I refused to answer him he back handed my nose so hard I thought it was broke. Then he started elbowing me in the side of the head. I pulled the car into the medium and jumped out with my purse and jacket and left him sitting in the car. I was determined he was NOT going to beat on me after leaving me in the club by myself that way. He got into the driver’s side of the car and that night he tried to run me over with my own car (car was in my mother's name). He literally drove the car up on the sidewalk right at me. Once I noticed he wasn’t going to stop I jumped a hedge and a little fence and he came right through it with the car. He got a little hung up so I jumped up and RAN! He chased me with the car and when I jumped over a ditch he stopped and jumped out and ran after me. I had stopped cuz I figure the ditch would stop him, he kept coming on foot and by the time I realized it he was on me, he beat me so bad that I passed out on the side of the road.

Next thing I remember is opening my eyes and seeing some girl pick my stuff up from the sidewalk that had fallen out of my purse. I found out at the trial for his murder what really happened after I passed out on the side of the street. THAT cop from that night was also subpoenaed to testify in his murder trial AND the young lady who stopped to help me retrieve my stuff. We are still very good friends today almost 15 years later!!!

Turns out a cop saved my life that night cuz he was doing security at the restaurant on the other side of the ditch I had jumped and heard me screaming and pulled his gun on him and hand cuffed him. Every cop on the scene told me that they could only hold him a max of 3 days. The ambulance wanted to take me to the hospital. I begged them to let me go home and pack my stuff. That's exactly what I did. This was the first time I admitted to myself and everyone around me that he was going to kill me if I didn’t get away from him.

I went home packed everything I could into a 1994 Mazda Protege' and NEVER went back. I visited once to pick up some dishes I needed and he beat me up again cuz I wouldn't stay and talk and have SEX!!! HUH??? I just couldn't believe it!!! This time I almost ran HIM over to leave that house and I left the dishes as well!!!

About 6 months later, he finally gave me my divorce cuz he found a new girlfriend. She was 21 years old and a beautiful girl. I so wanted to say something to her, but she was so "in love" and she wouldn’t believe me anyway is what I told myself.

Approximately a year later, I received a Subpoena in the mail to testify in a trial for the state against him! I was floored when I found out he murdered that poor girl. That started another year of guilty feelings for not telling her! He shot her with the SAME gun he used to threaten me with when I was trying to leave him. He shot her in his MOTHER's house!! She died on the scene before paramedics could arrive. I found from trial this was 13 pound trigger 380 and he shot her once in the shoulder and the bullet exited her hip.
He is now serving a 65 year sentence (30 before he is eligible for parole).

Me personally....I learned A LOT from my 3 year experience with him. I am currently re-married to a WONDERFUL man for the last 10 years, and we have a 7 year old daughter and a 6 year old son and I am happy as I can be!!!

Everyone has their experiences for a reason. The person I was BEFORE my ex would never have attracted my current husband. I went through that experience to make me who I needed to be for my current life....make sense??

I'm hoping that my story and my experience can be helpful for someone!!!
Please feel free to ask anything you want or comment on whatever you want

Monday, August 17, 2009


Copy and paste this into a new note and change the answers. If I tagged you, it means I want to see yours! Tag all the people you feel like tagging. And If I didn't tag you, you are still welcome to view/comment/ and make your own.

1. What are your middle names? Rachel & Taron
2. How long have you been together? together 13 years, married 10 years
3. How long did you know each other before you started dating? a month
4. Who asked who out? he asked me
5. Whose siblings do you see the most? Mine. Used to be his when BIL lived with us.
6. Do you have any children together? 2, 7 yr girl and 6 yr boy
7. What about pets? 2 parakeets, gold fish
8. Did you go to the same school? No
9. Who is the most sensitive? Me
10. Where do you eat out most as a couple? Chinese Buffet
11. Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple? Trinidad & Tobago, took him to meet my family.
12. Who has the craziest exes? Me
13. Who has the worst temper? Him
14. Who does the cooking? Him
15. Who is more social? Me
16. Who is the neat freak? No one is
17. Who is the most stubborn? Him
18. Who hogs the bed? Me
19. Who wakes up earlier? Me
20. Where was your first date? no idea.....
21. Do you get flowers often? No, I prefer it that way.....
22. How long did it take to get serious? About a month
23. Who eats more? Him
24. Who sings better? Him (considering it's his profession I would hope so!!!)
25. Who does the laundry? Me
26. Who’s better with the computer? Me
27. Who drives when you are together? Him
28. Who picks where you go to dinner? 50/50
29. Who wears the pants? Me
31. Who has the better sense of humor? Both
32. Who eats more sweets? Him
33. Who cries more? Me
34. What's your favorite tv shows to watch together? House, Lie to Me, CSI: All Cities, True Blood, WEEDS, Family Guy, SYTYCD, American Idol, Criminal Minds, Cold Case.

Saturday, August 1, 2009

High School Senior Share

Fill this out about your SENIOR year of high school! The longer ago it was, the more fun the answers will be!! Thought you might get a laugh out of some memories! Share yours! Tag your friends!

1. Did you date?
Not really

2. Did you marry someone from your high school?

3. Did you car pool to school?
For 1 year

4. What kind of car did you have?

5. What kind of car do you have now?
Toyota Camry

6. It's Friday night...where were you (in high school)?
Prolly at home

7. It is Friday night...where are you?
At home with the family enjoying movies or out with the kiddos doing something

8. What kind of job did you have in high school?
Cloth World Associate

9. What kind of job do you do now?
Computer Helpdesk Analyst

10. Were you a party animal?
No. That didn't happen till college.....

11. Were you considered a flirt?
Yeah, but I was always being accused or rumors about something I never did

12. Were you in band, orchestra, or choir?

13. Were you a nerd?
Nope, don't think so

14. Did you get suspended or expelled?

15. Can you sing the fight song?

16. Who was/were your favorite teacher(s)?
Can't remember her name it was an English teacher

17. Where did you sit during lunch?
Don't remember

18. What was your school's full name?
Spring High School

19. When did you graduate?

20. What was your school mascot?
A Lion

21. If you could go back and do it again, would you?


22. Did you have fun at Prom?
It was OK.

23. Do you still talk to your prom date?
No, but I heard from my mom that she still she's him now and again.....hmmmm

24. Who was your best friend?
I had a few great friends: Laidy Higuera, Brenda Williams, Lauren Richmond, Theresa Landes, Yolanda Cantu, Rebecca Heard, Stacey, Sarah P., Gina, so many more.......sorry if I missed you......

25. What did you want to be when you grew up?
Was never really sure

26. Any regrets?
A few, but overall I'm very blessed!

27. Biggest fashion mistake?
Jerry Curl!!!!!

28. Favorite fashion trend?
big t-shirt and leggings

29. Are you going to your next reunion?
Not sure.....there are people I don't care to encounter at all!!!

30. Who did you have a secret crush on?
Like I'm telling........hahahahahaha

Tag, you're turn...let the good times roll!!